- If a father ordered his son that he not talk to a certain person or that he not forgive a certain person, but the son would like to make peace with the person—he should not listen to his father, for it is forbidden to hate any Jew [except for when one personally observed the other Jew brazenly commit a sin], so, in effect, the father is ordering his son to transgress the words of the Torah. The son may therefore not heed the father in this matter. (Shulchan Aruch, YD 240:16).
2. Both men and women are obligated to honor their father and mother. However, a married woman is exempt because she is duty-bound to her husband. Nevertheless, if her husband does not object [indeed, he should not object], she is obligated to serve and honor her parents (ibid. 240:17).