כ״ו באייר ה׳תש״פ
- It is permitted to tell a prospective father-in-law about a serious flaw that the groom has, if he is not aware of it, and it is clear that if he did know, he would not go ahead with the match. This is so only under the conditions written hereafter.
E. If the groom is not clever or very sharp, it is not considered a flaw, and one is forbidden to relate this. So too, one is forbidden to relate the wrongdoings of a prospect’s ancestors.
Every moment that prerson restrain him mouth he acquiting to the Hidden Light, that there is no Mal'ach and creation to be able Imagine.(Hagra letter) 1